Love Leads

If we truly want to lead our families in the right direction; we have to lead them with love. The way that we show them is by spending time with them. If we put our own selfish interest first; we will loose the family that we have tried to so hard to keep. Today, I heard about a woman who killed her child, because he was distracting her from her game of Farmville (a Facebook game). You have a serious problem when you kill a child over something as childish as that.

I look around and see my wonderful life
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling
But on the inside, I can hear her saying...

People can try to cover up what is going on at home, but that facade can be uncovered by the way that it affects those involved. In this song, the wife is calling out for leadership of the family, and that falls upon the husband.

Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

A loving hand is a strong hand, and it protects from those things that would hurt the family. It is in the human nature to seek love outside the confines of marriage; if the person is not providing the love that the other person seeks. People seek the love that nurtures; not love that tears down.

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

So many people give up the fight in their relationships and therefore they lose the battle. I have a friend that has felt this way for a long time. Don't make your house a place of loneliness, because of your selfish desires.

I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes
They're just children from the outside
I'm working hard, I tell myself they'll be fine
They're independent
But on the inside, I can hear them saying...

You look into the eyes of your children and see the future of your family. The future is bleak if you do not take the time to spend with your children. If you make your job a priority and your family the last priority; then things will not be fine. The family suffers when you make them feel like their alone and unloved.

Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, but what about us?

Stand up for your family and give them a reason to stay.

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

Fight the good fight, because your family is the most important thing that you have.

So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I'm called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way
To lead them
Won't You lead me?

When you see the hurt that your selfishness has caused; it should wake you up to the fact that your family is drifting further and further away. I know that this fight is not something that we can do alone. Please call upon the Lord, because He can help you to bring your family back together.

To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can't
Don't want to leave them hungry for love,
Chasing things that I could give up

When we have things that occupy our time that do not benefit the family; it is time to reconsider what you are doing. You have someone worth fighting for, and they want to know that you love them.

I'll show them I'm willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me, 'cause I can't do this alone

Father, lead me, 'cause I can't do this alone
(Lead Me- Sanctus Real)

Please, love your family and create an atmosphere of love. Please, take the lead in your family lest they leave your home. A home is place of love. Don't make your home a place of loveless disarray.

God's Perfect Love

We always wonder why some people think that they don't deserve love, but even the worst people need love. God's love is not earned, it is given. He gave everything so that we might have everything in Him. He gave every ounce of love on that cross. We think that love can be ruined by the mistakes that we have made at one time or another. So many people in the Bible made mistakes, but did God love them any less? He loved them even more.

"My Jesus, I love Thee, I know Thou art mine;
For Thee all the follies of sin I resign;
My gracious Redeemer, my Savior art Thou:
If ever I loved Thee, my Jesus 'tis now."
(My Jesus, I Love Thee- William R. Featherston and Adoniram J. Gordon)

It is hard for us to love the unlovely, but that is what Jesus did for us. We are the unlovely. God's love is perfect even we are imperfect.

Love Grows Where Love Shows

Love grows when it is expressed in one way or another. We try to find ways to express our love. It is the small things that mean the most. Here are a few things that could be done to show love: wash the dishes, make the bed, vacuum the floor, and the occasional card of encouragement or flowers. These things might not seem like labors of love, but it is worth the effort to show the one you love that you care. I have seen so many situations where people forgot the little things and the love that was there withered away. If we only do things that benefit ourselves; we are being selfish. "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:"(Ephesians 5:28,29) I know that not all that read this will be husband and wife, but if you do not start somewhere then your love will end up going nowhere.

No Expert

This might seem like something that some people never find, but I want to tell you that it does wait for those that take time to seek it. I have sought love and it took time to find it. Love is not something mythical, but it is something that you have to dig deeper to find. We look for something that will fill that void that was left at Creation. "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him and help meet for him."(Genesis 2:18) I am not endorsing country music, but there is an old country song that talked about "looking for love in all the wrong places."(Waylon Jennings) I think that so many people look for short-term arrangements in the love department. "And I find more bitter than the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her, but the sinner shall be taken by her."(Ecclesiastes 7:26) King Solomon recognized the folly of his behavior. A love that promises satisfaction for a moment is vanity. It takes time to cultivate love and it takes a listening ear. I want to emphasize the listening ear. So many people talk too much and really don't take the time to listen. How do you get to know someone if you are always running your mouth? The apostle Paul emphasizes some very important things about love in I Corinthians 13. "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up."(13:4) "Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things."(13:7)

There is a love that is unconditional and has no string attached. Jesus knows everything about us, and we need to take that time to get to know Him. Like any love it takes time to grow. I celebrate the love that I have cultivated with my wife, and it continues to grow a day at a time.

What the experts say will not help to find a love that is lasting. Let me tell you about a book that has everything you need to know about love, God's Word.